American Girl in Italy (Ruth Orkin 1951)
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“As a
result of the economic downturn, Italian men can no longer afford to have a
mistress. The article explained that it is the role of the man to ‘woo’ a woman
on a date but now many men can no longer afford that for just one woman, not to
mention multiple. For the younger boys this is not so much of an issue because
they can adapt and learn how to use their charm and looks to ‘woo’ women.
Whereas, older men are struggling to afford the luxury of women. Hotel staff
members have said there has been a noticeably less number of “hotel lunch
breaks” and in Milan (the cheating capital of Italy) divorce rates have gone
down 38% because divorce is just too expensive. This article was very
interesting to me because it openly discussed infidelity as being something
normal and made it seem acceptable. This differs greatly from America in that
infidelity is very taboo and monogamy is highly regarded. I cannot imagine an
article like this ever being printed in America. Furthermore, this article
confirmed some of my stereotypes about Italian men in that they are romantic in
the form of grand gestures and gifts. However, being a woman and reading this
article I would be very untrusting of an Italian man as far as romantic
relationships go. For Italian men that do not fall into the “Casanova” category
this article really gives them a bad name” (Cheylsea Federle).
Italian
Gianluca Mezzofiore (IBTimes UK foreign correspondent) reacted to the article: BBC's Tacky, Tired Take on Italy's Casanovas Ignores the Truth.
“Regurgitating
a series of tired clichés about Italian Casanovas may seem an innocuous
exercise to many British readers. But the flawed connection between it and the
real impact of the economic crisis makes it not only silly, but enraging”,
writes Mezzofiore, adding: “These cries of despair require and deserve serious
insight, investigation, data, reports, interviews and a journalistic style that
doesn't fall on clichés like the "Latin lover has had to rein in his
appetite" or "Casanova has dispensed with the flowery niceties of
wining and dining and is cutting far more quickly to the chase".This is
the standard everyone expects from the BBC - not a jumble of hackneyed sentences
wheeled out to convey a "humorous" vision of Italy.”
Dany
Mitzman (a British freelance journalist who has been based in the north Italian
town of Bologna since 1998) disagrees too with the BBC light-hearted story: Lotharios no more: In defence of Italian men. “I admit that I am writing this from a personal
perspective, having moved to Italy at the end of 1998 and met my partner in
1999. He is honest, faithful, considerate and not remotely sexist. In terms of
the Italian male stereotype, he is very ‘un-Italian’. Some women worldwide may
add that, in terms of the general male stereotype, he is very ‘un-male’".
Mitzman adds: “So, if this country's men continue to have a reputation as
Europe's most ardent seducers, I wonder if maybe it is because the language of
Italy is still romantic and idealistic and - at least for some of its men -
sincere? Italians use the word ‘corteggiare’, meaning ‘to court’, and the men
still do it! My partner ‘courted’ me by leaving me little hand-written notes
under my bicycle saddle and bringing me flowers every single time he came to
see me. And I mean every single time. At a certain point, being a cynical Brit,
I asked him to stop as my apartment was starting to look like a funeral
parlour”.
None of the
three articles offers any form of scientific support, or in-depth
interpretation of the economic, social and cultural phenomena. Anyhow, I
believe BBC Emma Jane Kirby was able to point out an interesting theme that
deserves our attention. The reader shall be patient and wait for the final
research paper of a 20 years old student. At that point an accurate account
that starts from personal experiences but is capable to transcend them – with
some reliable scientific data and concepts, or (why not?) reading Giacomo
Casanova’s biography and trying to interpret it with a social and psychological
(and historical of course) perspective – will be available in the web.
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